BUILDING SELF-CONFIDENCE

LOW SELF-CONFIDENCE IS PERPETUATED BY
– staying within a narrow comfort zone
– believing that others know better
– sacrificing your interests in the hope of gaining approval and security

OVERCOMING SOCIAL ANXIETY
– identify patterns of avoidance and safety behaviours
– challenge your negative thoughts
– check yourself for perfectionism
– check yourself for excessive reassurance-seeking
– understand the reasons for the brain’s negativity bias
– practice self-compassion and reward yourself for taking steps forward

CHANGING HABITS
– it is easier to replace a habit than eliminate it
– try to understand the cues and rewards that drive the habit
– use trial and error to find a new routine that can give similar rewards
– start simple and change only one habit at a time
– practice the new routine consistently for the first 30 days

OVERCOMING INDECISIVENESS
– try working backwards from what you know you don’t want
– brainstorm all possible options and make a list of pros and cons
– choose the best possible option even if there is no obvious right decision
– leave room for course corrections and have a back-up plan
– doing things for the right reason is more important than doing them the right way

OVERCOMING PROCRASTINATION
– try to clarify your motives for going forward and what is stopping you
– start even if you are not in the right mood or do not have all the materials
– build momentum by starting on the edges or with the easy parts
– focus on one step at a time rather than thinking about the end result
– learn to procrastinate productively by using breaks to perform other tasks

CHANGING JOBS
– try to be clear with yourself about why you want to leave your current job
– look at whether the problems with your current job are fixable
– list what you want from a new job in concrete terms
– spend time doing research and consider all options
– assess your financial options and supports
– consider vocational assessment or further education
– sign up for job alerts to find out what jobs are actually available
– test your readiness by doing preliminary job interviews
– consider a trial run before committing yourself to a new position
– beware of recruiters who pressure you to close the deal
– organize a plan by making a time-line and work backwards by setting deadlines for each step
– leave your old job on good terms
– see here for information on dealing with problems in the workplace

SEE ALSO
– Confidence
– The Impostor Syndrome
– Status Anxiety
– Procrastination
– The Perfectionist Trap
– The Dangers Of Being Dutiful
– Misemployment
– How to Find Fulfilling Work
– What is ‘Success’?