DEALING WITH ANGER

THINGS THAT CONTRIBUTE TO ANGER
– over-sensitivity to shame and humiliation
– ineffective communication skills
– early experiences of abuse or neglect
– drug and alcohol use

LEARNING TO THINK BEFORE YOU ACT
– use deep breathing to calm yourself down
– identify internal triggers and warning signs and take a time out
– identify external triggers and learn ways of avoiding them
– check yourself for blaming others

RESENTMENT IN CLOSE RELATIONSHIPS
– resentment involves making others responsible for one’s frustrations and disappointments
– facts are selectively chosen to to justify one’s mistakes
– resentment can become entrenched and lead to stand-offs in relationships

DEALING WITH RESENTMENT IN CLOSE RELATIONSHIPS
– learn to practice effective communication
– make an effort to validate your partner’s feelings
– acknowledge your mistakes and find ways to make amends

SEE ALSO
– How to Get Angry a Lot
– How Not to be Angry all the Time
– How to Remain Calm with People
– How We Lie to Ourselves